Values of a Relationship

It is very sad to say, even as a bachelor, that the value of great, monogamous relationships has been belittled. Every time we turn on the television, we have to suffer through one tacky show after another about individuals who are trying to FALL IN LOVE OR FIND THE RIGHT ONE (Flavor of Love, I Love New York, Real Chance of Love, Snooking for Love, just to name a few). Because the media has an influence on everything from the clothes we wear to the people we sleep with, more and more of us are living by unrealistic, scripted standards as opposed to the standards our parents raised us with. Television, music and magazines play a big role in deciding what we deem as acceptable behavior, more specifically in our relationships. The problem with television relationships is that failure gets more ratings and more press than success. What is the end result? We end up following these television formulas in real life and expecting a different outcome.

You want what your grandparents had? Unless Flava Flav is your grandfather, stop looking at that man. We do not live the kind of lifestyles that promote the type of commitment our grandparents had because you're too busy doing you boo boo. And since everyone is doing them, it's either "NIGGAZ AINT SHIT or SHE'S A HOE." We have to understand that to want what our grandparents have, we have to do what our grandparents did. Monogamy is a learned behavior and commitment takes practice. We're not going to wake up one day and magically be marriage material and that goes for you too ladies. We have to pay attention to changing ourselves and our mentalities. And I know they say 'actions speak louder than words' but honestly, that's not entirely true. If actions spoke louder than words, then why do we take vows? We take vows because everything, words and actions have to line up in order to ensure a lifetime of happiness.

IF YOU KNEW BETTER, YOU WOULD DO BETTER. DON'T WEAR UGGZ IN SHOE WEATHER.